Appreciate friends

There are treasures people want to find and there are precious thing people care about and there is another number of different thing of material value people are thirsty for, but there is something that is of twice preciousness and it has nothing to do with the material stuff. It is values I’m talking about, the values that are real treasures of our life. Friendship is something we recognize the commo9n thing and we all have friends, those people we usually have fun with. Though, they are nit friends indeed but they are just people of the same point of view with us right here and right nw. the real and the true friend is a person who is always by your side even in case he or she is of different point of view. The true friend will never let you down and will never leave you in case he or she knows that you need its help. This person will never leave you even if he or she thinks those things you have done are terrible things. He or she will stay away with judgments but he or she will be there with help whatever it takes. This person will be there when you need him or her to be there even in case you have never asked him or her to.

Honesty is the best policy

Honesty indeed is the best policy and it is policy that helps people to create strong relations between them. When in friendship or in love with one you have or it is even better to say you must be honest. There is no place for lie in case you really care about a person and do not want to lose him or her. It is necessary to be honest with those people you love and with those people who love you. They trust you and they open their hearts for you and you have no right to betray that trust and make people feel that they were wrong when opened and honest with you. Honesty is a great value and people should care much about it. It is hard to be honest but it is twice hard to lie to those people who trust you. When you look into their eyes and lie to them indeed it takes a lot of cruelty to act like that. it is hard to be honest but it is vitally important to be of that kind. Honesty can save friends from turning into greatest enemies and honesty can save love from degenerating into hate and cold war.

Not so easy

How exactly do we define substandard values? Are they the values of those we don’t believe live appropriately or are they the values which lead to headlines and hurt? Where is the magic line between acceptance for others and supporting substandard values? Not many of us can embrace the values of a child molester and few of us can accept the values of those who kill to get what they want. But is that where we draw the line? Our country is filled with people living by a myriad of substandard values, and we are all so sure we know which ones are bound to lead directly to crime, the pain of another, or death. Does the drug addict share the same substandard values as the child molester? Or is it something more than mere behaviors that determine whether we should accept the values someone lives with?

Values are not so easy to thread through and understand. Just because we don’t agree with someone’s values doesn’t mean they are wrong. Just because someone’s interpretation of religious values is different from ours doesn’t make them wrong either. Yet we are quick to come down on someone else’s value system for fear of what it might lead to. We are quick to judge someone else’s values as substandard so that we do not need to feel culpable should their value system lead to crime and someone else’s pain. Then we can say we knew better all along. It’s an interesting web we have woven, and the answers toward finding our way out are just as difficult.

The Set Of Values

Our parents carry their own set of values and many of them struggled hard to pass them down to us. For some of us these values are either seemingly old fashioned or don’t fit in with our own value system. Reconciling a parent’s values with our own can be a constant source of angst between a parent and an adult child. No matter what their intentions, the inability of a parent’s values to simply be their own moral compass can be irritating at best and infuriating at worst. Families have practically waged war over a value system that doesn’t gel.

Parents often aren’t aware of the reasons behind your differing values. Explaining them might help, but agreeing to simply disagree is usually the only way to bury the proverbial value hatchet between you. When you values are in direct conflict with theirs, there is little room for negotiation. Whether you have only one parent to contend with or you feel you have to challenge the entire family’s values in order to defend your own, the chronic tension can ruin holiday and other festive events. Offering a truce between you and the parent with the alternate values, an unspoken understanding of your differing opinions, is often the only respite from the tension available. It means that you often have to adopt a new value about not needing to be right and being able to give your parent the right to their own opinion no matter how strongly you disagree with it.

Values

Every person cares about his or her life. Everyone has special aims, priorities and values and tries to follow them. The important thing is that they are individual. The set of values can be different for different people and this is no wonder as all of us have only 24 hours a day not a minute more and it is impossible to find time for everything. So you should decide for yourself what is the most important for you in life. It can be family, career or something more original. It all depends on the kind of person you are. If your private values are love, children, communication or home then you were born to build up a happy famile and to bring up wonderful children. If your values are respect, money, success and work, you had better devote your life to career making.
However, there are certain values which have practically always been important for people from every century. One of the most ancient moral values is hedonism which is based on the idea that pleasure is the most important in life and it is the criterion of people’s behaviour. Also there are many philosophical questions which are closely connected with moral values such as: what is good and bad, what is the nature of happiness, justice, love and hate and the reason of our existence.

A Good Friend

Who is most likely to become friends? Psychologists and sociologists have brought several criteria. Proximity. That is, it often becomes the cause of the initial approach. According to sociologists, most people find friends with classmates, colleagues and neighbors. Similarity of interests. The anticipated need friends that their relations were based on at least some common interests (fully duplicated, they should not). Some social scientists interpret the similarity of interests is very wide, in the belief that they can be and the same social status. 
Interaction. General activities of the Caribbean, perhaps the hardest: it helps to better identify people in particular and individual tastes, it gives a sense of belonging to a group dedicated to one thing. Self. Another ingredient in a good friendship - self. Without it, most likely to become best friends would be co-workers. Self, when dry, is the message of a certain intimate, personal information. To make friendly relations is of importance not only the fact of self, but its emotional tone (which sound like a man says about himself), as well as how flexible it is able to regulate their frankness, depending on the situation or the reaction of the other person. 
But what qualities and skills will be required in order to maintain cordial relations? The question put before a British psychologist Henderson. They were impressive out and asked the British, Italians, Japanese and Hong Kong residents aged 18 to 60 on the theme: «What do you consider most important for friendship?». In total 43 general rule. According to the criteria of compliance or violation of these rules compared teachings of the successful, ongoing friendship with the collapse, as well as friendly relations, high or low as measured by the participants.